“The dinner table is a battle field where warriors defeat the eating disorder one bite at a time.”
DO YOU PUT OFF TRYING NEW THINGS OR GOING NEW PLACES BECAUSE YOU FEEL UNCOMFORTABLE IN YOUR SKIN?
ARE YOU SICK AND TIRED OF OBSESSING ABOUT YOUR BODY OR FOOD?
ARE YOU DONE TYING YOUR SELF-WORTH TO YOUR APPEARANCE?
Living like this is exhausting.
YOU WANT TO FIND FREEDOM FROM SELF-HATRED AND UNHEALTHY OBSESSION WITH APPEARANCE, FOOD, AND EXERCISE.
I CAN HELP YOU QUIET THAT VOICE.
YOU DON'T HAVE TO FEEL TRAPPED ANYMORE.
9 Truths about Eating Disorders
Forget the Myths...Learn the Truth!
Myths can hurt
According to the National Eating Disorder Association (NEDA), 20 million women and 10 million men in the U.S. will suffer from a diagnosed eating disorder at some time in their life. That is already a huge number. But we also have to consider the millions of individuals who struggle with disordered eating behaviors but are not diagnosed because their outward appearance or symptoms are not as apparent. Their physical and mental suffering are no less destructive just because they do not fit the public perception.
How often to we hear people say things like "I wish I had anorexia for a little while", "I wish I had that kind of self control", or "I wish I could have an eating disorder so I could lose a little weight"? They do not realize what that wish would really cost.
Common side effects of anorexia nervosa include an abnormally slow heart rate and low blood pressure to conserve energy and keep the heart from working too hard. Drastic reductions in bone density lead to osteoporosis that can leave teens and young adults with bones that resemble those of the elderly. Muscle weakness, dehydration, fatigue and severe nutrient deficiencies are all too commonly seen in individuals with anorexia nervosa.
Bulimia nervosa can devastate the gastrointestinal system, causing inflammation, erratic bowel movements, peptic ulcers and possible rupture of the esophagus, along with irregular heart beat, electrolyte imbalances and erosion of tooth enamel, all potentially brought on by frequent vomiting.
In 2015, 13 eating disorder organizations, in collaboration with Cynthia Bulik, Ph.D., FAED, published the “Nine Truths About Eating Disorders", a document that reflected the most recent research on eating disorders. “Nine Truths About Eating Disorders" helped challenge some of the myths that have persisted despite improved research over the last several decades.
One of the best ways to fight stigma is with the truth. Increased public understanding about eating disorders help raise awareness and encourage early intervention in eating disorder treatment. Myths and misinformation about eating disorders lead to shame, isolation, and increased secretive behaviors that often devastate relationships and lives.
Here are The Nine Truths about Eating Disorders and my perspective on each:
Many people with eating disorders look healthy, yet may be extremely ill.
You can't tell if someone has an eating disorder just by looking at them. Years of misinformation and media that almost only depicts severe causes of anorexia have conditioned us to believe that eating disorders are about weight. In fact, since the latest edition of the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-5), there is no weight criteria for diagnosis since the devastating physical and psychological effects of eating disorders are not dependent upon weight.
Families are not to blame, and can be the patients’ and providers’ best allies in treatment.
It is true that family roles and conflicts can play a part in the development and maintacnce of eating disorders. However, that is not enough to say that families are at fault. Many evidenced-based treatments such as Family-based treatment (FBT), actually use the family dynamic as an asset in recovery.
An eating disorder diagnosis is a health crisis that disrupts personal and family functioning.
The general public seems to think that eating disorders are solely about food and only affect weight and health. While the most overt symptoms may present themselves around eating, obsessions with food, body weight, and shape are only signs of an eating disorder not the disorder itself. The true experiences of these disorders extend across the individuals' life, often negatively affecting their ability to care for themselves and live independently.
Eating disorders are not choices, but serious biologically influenced illnesses.
I probably can't say this enough: Eating disorders are not lifestyle choices. People tend to erroneously equate eating disorders with diet culture. This completely ignores role of biology in the development of eating disorders. Eating disorders are biologically-based illness and are not something that people do to themselves.
Eating disorders affect people of all genders, ages, races, ethnicities, body shapes and weights, sexual orientations, and socioeconomic statuses.
There is a stereotype of the eating disorder sufferer that persists to this day: White. Upper-middle class. Teenage. Female. Unfortunately, in order to receive an eating disorder diagnosis you must first be identified as someone who has an eating disorder. Even mental health professionals can be fooled by stereotypes, especially when they lack specialized knowledge of eating disorders. People who think they do not match the common perception of what an eating disorder sufferer looks like may be hesitant to even seek out treatment in the first place.
Eating disorders carry an increased risk for both suicide and medical complications.
Anorexia Nervosa has the highest mortality rate of any mental illness. Serious medical complications and suicide affect sufferers of all eating disorders, at range of different weights.
Genes and environment play important roles in the development of eating disorders.
Society alone is not to blame. Diet culture is not to blame. The "skinny ideal" is not to blame. Eating disorders are complex. They result from an interaction of genetics and social environment that vary immensely from person to person.
Genes alone do not predict who will develop eating disorders.
There is a genetic component to the development of eating disorders. However, simply being predisposed does not mean that you will inevitably develop one. It is often said that genetics load the gun, but environment pulls the trigger.
Full recovery from an eating disorder is possible. Early detection and intervention are important.
Eating disorders are not for life and they can be treated! Full recovery is possible. It is important to seek treatment early for eating disorders. Unfortunately, treatment is frequently withheld until people have reached critically low weights, despite it being more effective if applied early and despite the fact that weight alone does not indicate a serious disorder. Individuals who are able to access early intervention, treatment, and therapy, as well as ongoing support are more likely to achieve full recovery.
Contact the NEDA Helpline for support, resources and treatment options for yourself or a loved one. 1-800-931-2237
For crisis situations, text "NEDA" to 741741 to be connected with a trained volunteer at Crisis Text Line.
For more information visit https://www.nationaleatingdisorders.org/help-support
Misconception: Only crazy/weak/broken people go to therapy.
Reality: There remains a stigma about therapy in our culture that scares many people away from seeking help. Needing therapy is not about being "crazy", "broken", or "weak". It's about being self-aware enough to realize that you are not where you want to be in life. Therapy is merely a tool that exists to help you explore your struggles, strengths, and personal beliefs so that you can realize your full potential and reach your goals.
Misconception: Talking to friends or family is just as effective as going to a therapist.
Reality: Friends and family can be an excellent source of support but they are not equipped to help to the same extent that a therapist can. Friends and family can offer encouragement and advice but they just don’t know the same techniques, styles, and various applications of therapeutic methods that therapists do.
misconception: My therapist is going to judge me and think i am the worst person ever.
Reality: Trust me, therapists have seen it all! They work with all sorts of problems and aren’t going to judge anyone. Therapists completely understand that everybody will experience challenges at some point in their lives. Besides, most therapists have their own therapist!
Misconception: Therapists just listen to you talk.
Reality: Yes, therapists are great listeners, but that's not all they do. Therapists hold at least a master’s degree and have received years of training and experience that have equipped them with the knowledge, empathy, perspective, and skills to help you get through the most difficult times of your life.
Misconception: My therapist will tell me what to do.
Reality: Therapy is not about getting advice and therapists will never tell you what you "should" do. Therapists are able to see things from many different angles and can understand different perspectives simultaneously. Using their unique skillset, your therapist will help guide you in the direction you choose to go.
Misconception: therapy is only for serious issues.
Reality: There is no issue too small to see a therapist if it is having a negative effect on your life. Therapy can address severe issues like mental illness and trauma but it also helps with stress, anxiety, life transitions, relationship issues, self-esteem, and confidence, among other concerns.
Misconception: therapy is just common sense.
Reality: Therapy gives you insight that is unique to you. Also, there may be times that you think you already know what you need to do about something that is negatively affecting your life, but you are not able to take the steps necessary to get there. Therapy can help you take action.
Misconception: therapy can only help if my therapist experienced the same thing.
Reality: Although it can be helpful and reassuring to know that you can relate to your therapist, most clinicians are very familiar with a variety of issues and can help you regardless of their personal experiences. It is certainly possible to find a therapist who has gone through similar things, but it isn’t entirely necessary.
misconception: Therapy is too expensive.
Reality: Yes, it's true that the cost of therapy can be prohibitive for many people. However, it is important to consider therapy as an investment in yourself. Also, ask yourself about the cost of not addressing the issues that you have been struggling with. Are you losing money at work? Are you missing out on time with friends or family? Is your schoolwork suffering? Are you simply not where you want to be in life? Think about how your distress is affecting your life and then make an informed decision about pricing.
Misconception: you'll always need therapy.
Reality: Therapy is not permanent. Ultimately, you decide how long you are in therapy. You can begin and end when and if you choose. Some people only want or need a few sessions while others benefit from long-term therapy. If you are not sure about how much therapy you need, you can always consult with your therapist. Together, you can decide what will be best for your unique needs. Once your issues are resolved there is no reason to continue therapy further.